Has someone ever told you what they think about you or what they think about something you’ve done? And their opinion affected you? Particularly if it was negative? As much as I’d love to say that I have never succumbed to someone’s opinion about me, I know that I have. (And probably will again, because I’m a work in progress).
But here’s how I’m learning to break free from what others think about me. It’s none of my business. Really. And it’s none of my business because someone else’s thoughts and opinions are none of my business. Everyone has a right to think however they want to think. They don’t have to like me. They can criticize me. They are entitled to believe what they want to believe about me. Of course, I want the whole world to fall in love with me. But in reality, I can be a tad bit polarizing at times. And I know this about me. So if someone wants to dislike me for whatever reason, they have that right. Just as I have my rights to my opinions about people.
You know what else I have a right to do? I have the right to choose to believe what God says about me. So many of us have grown up with feelings of rejection for one reason or another. And those feelings have wreaked havoc in our lives. Those feelings have also made us very sensitive to other’s opinions. Because if someone doesn’t like us, then we go back to those feelings that we may have had growing up. I applaud anyone who this doesn’t apply to. I wish I was one of those people. But in my lifetime, I’ve definitely felt the sting of rejection and I desperately wanted to be a people pleaser. But when you have a personality that can be a bit strong (like mine) it makes it difficult for everyone to like you. I can’t tell you how many friends I have that will quickly tell me, “You know, you weren’t really my cup of tea when I met you.” And that’s okay, because they weren’t my cup of tea either. LOL
But back to what I was saying. I’ve learned that choosing to understand who God says I am (and it is a conscious choice to believe Him over others); and Establishing Within Myself That God Cannot Lie, makes what others think of me far less significant. I know that I am:
A child of God, created in His image (and everyone doesn’t like Him either)
A branch of the true vine, and a conduit of Christ’s life (and everyone doesn’t like Him either)
Empowered by the Holy Spirit (and everyone doesn’t like Him either)
A friend of Jesus
Justified and redeemed
The righteousness of God in Christ
I am the head and not the tail
Above only and not beneath
A lender and never a borrower
Blessed and highly favored
Wanna know more about who you are? Check out this list at Bible.org
I share my flaws because I’m unashamed of them. That doesn’t mean I’m proud of them. It just means I know me. I know Monica. I still have a ton of work to do on myself. But knowing who I am in Christ, and studying God’s LivingWord daily, helps me to walk with confidence as I work out the kinks in me. It keeps me humble as I continue to grow and expand exponentially because of God’s grace and anointing on my life. It helps me be okay with allowing others to have their opinions of me. And honoring the fact that their opinions are really none of my business. And their opinions about you are none of your business either!
Be Blessed and Have a Fantastic Day!
– I am not a preacher, minister, evangelist, etc. I am just a woman who has a heart for God.